"Change is not merely necessary to life, it is life." — Alvin Toffler
Change can take on many forms in all aspects of our lives. Some changes are good, such as getting married, having children, making new friends and buying a car or a home. Others are undesirable, such as losing your job, divorce or death of a loved one. Welcome or not, change can easily disrupt our lives, forcing us to alter our usual routines and even explore different ways of thinking.
Although we cannot always control changes, we are always in charge of how we cope with them. Coping with change, big or small, puts us in a state of transition as we adjust our lives and our thoughts to new situations. In his groundbreaking book, Transitions:Making Sense of Life's Changes, William Bridges describes this transition process as three stages:
Depending on the change, and the person, these transition stages can last from a few days to perhaps months or even years. And despite this simple model, it’s not always easy to navigate. Many people are reluctant to let go of old routines. Others become frightened and confused in the Neutral Zone. Some even freeze when they face the New Beginning, unsure how to adjust to different circumstances.
Dealing with the loss, uncertainty and stress of changing situations is difficult for everyone. Here are some ideas and suggestions that can help:
Remember that change is a part of life. No one is immune to change, and we all go through the same transition process.
with permission from the United Behavioral Health Thrive! Series
Reading Suggestions :
Transitions: Making Sense of Life’s Changes by William Bridges, Ph.D.: offers advice and strategies for dealing with each step of the transition process.
Feel The Fear And Do It Anyway by Susan Jeffers, Ph.D.: suggests ways to conquer the fear that comes with the uncertainty of change.
Passages: Predictable Crises of Adult Life by Gail Sheehy: shows how to use each life crisis as an opportunity for creative change in order to grow to your full potential. Although we cannot always control changes, we are always in charge of how we cope with them.
Losses: The Loves, Illusions, Dependencies and Impossible Expectations That
All of Us Have to Give Up in Order to Grow by
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